Comments on: 2007-08-08 Groundhog Day Resolutions http://uhri.com/blog/2007-08-08-groundhog-day-resolutions/ Taste is in the tongue of the beholder Sat, 20 Nov 2010 14:11:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: John http://uhri.com/blog/2007-08-08-groundhog-day-resolutions/comment-page-1/#comment-558 John Fri, 10 Aug 2007 02:41:26 +0000 http://uhri.com/blog/index.php/archive/2007-05-05-groundhog-day-resolutions/#comment-558 Thanks, Dave. Some progress *is* better than none. For me, its especially hard to plan an official date with The Wife... she's the logistically talented one. Besides, I wouldn't have guessed in a million years that *she* would want to see Live Free, Die Hard. Romance is something that needs to be prioritized at the level of, or higher, than chores, that I agree. But the problem is that most people think of romance as a chore in and of itself. That is the problem. I see my role as a husband to serve my wife, putting her needs before my own and providing a place for her to grow. She sees her role the same way. When both people in the relationship look at it that way, I think romance happens almost effortlessly. The dates are mostly to get away from the kids for a bit. Finishing a sentence without interruption makes for much better conversation! Thanks, Dave. Some progress *is* better than none.

For me, its especially hard to plan an official date with The Wife… she’s the logistically talented one. Besides, I wouldn’t have guessed in a million years that *she* would want to see Live Free, Die Hard.

Romance is something that needs to be prioritized at the level of, or higher, than chores, that I agree. But the problem is that most people think of romance as a chore in and of itself. That is the problem. I see my role as a husband to serve my wife, putting her needs before my own and providing a place for her to grow. She sees her role the same way. When both people in the relationship look at it that way, I think romance happens almost effortlessly.

The dates are mostly to get away from the kids for a bit. Finishing a sentence without interruption makes for much better conversation!

]]> By: Dave Seah http://uhri.com/blog/2007-08-08-groundhog-day-resolutions/comment-page-1/#comment-557 Dave Seah Thu, 09 Aug 2007 19:42:45 +0000 http://uhri.com/blog/index.php/archive/2007-05-05-groundhog-day-resolutions/#comment-557 Looks like progress is being made, month to month, so that's great. I was commenting to someone the other day how it's hard to "make time for romance", and we were wondering why that was. What if we reframed romantic activity as a CHORE that needed to get done, to help maintain the household? It's not really a chore, but maybe we need to weight it with the same importance so it gets equal consideration. Just a thought :-) Looks like progress is being made, month to month, so that’s great.

I was commenting to someone the other day how it’s hard to “make time for romance”, and we were wondering why that was. What if we reframed romantic activity as a CHORE that needed to get done, to help maintain the household? It’s not really a chore, but maybe we need to weight it with the same importance so it gets equal consideration. Just a thought :-)

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